Faux Friendship By William Deresiewicz (via the Western Confucian)
It's an ok piece, and gets better when dealing with social networking sites like Facebook. But its caricature of medieval (Catholic) attitudes towards friendship is ignorant:
The rise of Christianity put the classical ideal in eclipse. Christian thought discouraged intense personal bonds, for the heart should be turned to God. Within monastic communities, particular attachments were seen as threats to group cohesion. In medieval society, friendship entailed specific expectations and obligations, often formalized in oaths. Lords and vassals employed the language of friendship. "Standing surety"—guaranteeing a loan, as in The Merchant of Venice—was a chief institution of early modern friendship. Godparenthood functioned in Roman Catholic society (and, in many places, still functions) as a form of alliance between families, a relationship not between godparent and godchild, but godparent and parent. In medieval England, godparents were "godsibs"; in Latin America, they are "compadres," co-fathers, a word we have taken as synonymous with friendship itself.
What of the writings of St. Augustine,
St. Aelred of Rievaulx, or St. Thomas Aquinas, just to mention a few? Yes, rules of religious life discourage particular friendships/attachments, but this is not the same as denigrating friendship in itself. (And there are apparently good reasons for this, since particular friendships may become hindrances to the exercise of charity towards all in the community, or the occasion for something worse.) Nor was this the ideal for lay people. Rather than doing away with friendship, the Christian tradition has held that the love of God and the supernatural life elevate and perfect it.