Friday, June 04, 2010

The Western Confucian: Don't Know Nothin' 'Bout Birthin' No Babies

Being with the wife when she is delivering their child is one of those touchstones for modern American men, a test of whether they are sensitive and caring enough. The practice also seems to be a novelty in human history? (Though maybe Adam was present for the births of Cain and Abel.) There seems to be a strict separation between the sexes with regards to the delivery of a baby in traditional cultures, regardless of their state of advancement with respect to material culture and differentiation of labor.

Even if one employs a midwife for an at-home birth, the father may not be bound to be present in the room where it takes place.

Would it be a sufficient compromise if one leaves it up to the wife? If she requests that the husband be present to provide support, why would he not comply, unless there be other serious matters to attend to? But I suspect that some would make his presence in the delivery room a sort of obligation, and criticize those who choose not to be present as bad husbands. Uhmerican betas can be so fearful of their wives' disapproval.

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