"God will put the right one in my life when it's time."

It is said that this belief, however it is formulated, should be adopted by Christians fleeing the modern dating scene. It may seem to be a pious thought, but it is instead an example of Christianity-lite because it ignores human nature in favor of some idealized (or overly spiritualized) notion of romance and God's providence. As it has been a while since I browsed the contents at Boundless, I can't say with any certainty that this mindset is defended there. It has been criticized by Dalrock and others, who are probably correct to condemn this sort of passive attitude as being proper to a woman, Christian or otherwise. Indeed, Christian women probably take this belief as giving them permission or validating their desire to pursue their career and the life of a care-free single. Rather, in addition to preparing themselves to be good wives and mistresses of the house, women should make themselves available to be pursued by men, and do so in the appropriate places that will signal a proper intention. It is unlikely that a man will find many chaste, sensible women at a club or bar. Even if he can successfully game a woman there, he does not expect to find the right kind of girl.

While women should not hold on to this belief, might it be an appropriate one for men? If so, wouldn't it be another example of women improperly trying to be like men? This thought struck my mind when considering that a recovering beta must give up quioxtic fantasies and onenitis and be a master of his life, not be mastered by his emotions. That is the proper way to "man up." A recent comment at Dalrock's blog by deti lists some of Roissy's "commandments," including this:

Chapter III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man’s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman’s integrity and not lie to her that she is “your everything”. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.

Similar advice is implicitly given by Jack Donovan. Men should focus on making themselves better men, and not worry so much about finding a woman. In these sad times, they should probably be indifferent or even resigned to the possibility that they may not marry because there may be an insufficient number of good, godly, and submissive women out there. (This stoicism is not incompatible with a trust in God's providence, if one believes that God does not "micromanage" his creatures or coerce their wills.)

If they are blessed with good family, friend, and church networks, perhaps they will be able to meet a good women through these. Are there any examples of Christian men who met a woman at a bar and then led her to being a good, submissive Christian wife? I doubt it. I leave the workplace out of the list because its association with American sexual harassment laws is just too dangerous for betas, recovering or otherwise. If any Christian men who have taken the "red pill" have an alternate strategy of finding a good wife, let me know.

Related:
How Do I Know God's Will for a Marriage Partner?