Saw a overview of the last few episodes of season 1 of Outlander; the visually younger male lover Jamie Fraser reveals to the main character Claire that he was raped/sodomized by the villain, "He made love to me." What sort of normal man says that? And to what part of female nature do the wording, act, and degradation appeal? Sounds like a twisted uhmerican BSDM version of Bishōnen. (You wouldn't hear a fictional woman character using those words to describe what her rapist had done, would you?)
Would normal women have difficulties respecting a man who experiences sodomy during his captivity?