Advice for single women: Single women should to learn to distinguish between expenditures on looks that help catch a husband and those that merely impress their single women friends. Spending money to snag a good husband can have a huge return on investment, but not all spending on fashion and beauty has equal payoffs.There needs to be a male version of "Don't Impress Me Much." But then whoever writes or sings such a song would get it from feminists and those who take themselves to be "girly" or "post-feminist."
Women spend a lot of money in attractiveness arms races against other women in areas that men pay little attention to. For example, spending on your nails doesn't have much payoff in attracting a good man. Nails are the kind of thing that other women pay attention to, but most men only subliminally notice.
Similarly, while buying high heels is a good idea because they make women look more curvaceous, buying and lots of lots of shoes is a waste. Men don't really care whether you have the latest fashion in shoes and whether they perfectly match your dress ... well, some men care, but they are generally not the kind of man who will be the father of your children.
You'll notice that most men think that the fact that Imelda Marcos owned 3,000 pairs of shoes condemns her without appeal. Yet, women I've talked to about this find it reasonable once they do the math: two pairs per week for 30 years of public appearances. Seems pretty thrifty to most women! Still, you can see ways to economize.
Of course, once a woman is not single anymore, her husband would prefer she think more about impressing other women than other men ...
(Keeping up with the Jonses is necessarily only if not maintaining appearances would have a deterimental impact on your access to that social circle for the sake of bearing witness to Christ, but even then the bare minimum should be adhered to as much as possible.)
Neat, simple, clean, and modest--a virtuous Christian man would be content with this. Anything beyond would be an unnecessary frill.
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Neat, simple, clean and modest. Sure, Papa Bear. That's what men are looking for. Suuuuuuure. Your entire websight is full of beautiful actresses. Or are you going to argue that they are merely "neat, simple, clean and modest"?
The Philosopher said that men don't notice nails. My BF notices nails. I got mine done red (instead of pale pink) for the first time in about a million years, and BF said, "OOOOOH... Red nails!" So some men notice nails.
With regards to Korean women (and Asian women in general)--I have written about the subject before, http://cantate-domino.blogspot.com/2006/08/why-interest-in-korean-women.html. And I have protested against cosmetic surgery, excessive use of makeup.
Notice I didn't say "men" in general, but "virtuous Christian" men.
I notice nails, but I find the painting of nails to be generally frivolous, and look only to see if they are trimmed and neat, since it is a part of proper grooming and personal care. Painting the nails reinforces the role of the senses and sense attraction, and can contribute to exaggerated sensuality.
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