Not quite the Captain-First Mate Model

OrthoChristian: A BRIEF REFLECTION ON MALE HEADSHIP by Dr. David C. Ford

Of course, every husband, as the servant-head, should always be seeking the input of his wife in the decision-making processes, which should always be decidedly mutual, with decisions being reached virtually always by consensus. Similarly, the husband should also be steadily encouraging his wife to contribute greatly to the marital enterprise as a whole, with all her particular strengths and gifts as well.

So it is of paramount importance for everyone to know and remember that this role of male headship, especially in marriage, is meant to be fulfilled with a deep sense and vision of self-sacrificial servanthood. This requires the husband in a real sense to always be laying down his life for his wife and children, which means very often putting their needs and desires ahead of his own, or in place of his own.