A failure of male leadership.

Even if leadership when used solely with reference to the self is being said analogically -- see In Mala Fide: The Fear of Manning Up.

This is what paleoconservatives and traditional conservatives tend to say in response to those who criticize the feminist-supporting legal and political systems. What can be done to change the current state of affairs?  While women have their own part to play (initiating reform in the behavior and choices of women), men need to take some control over their own lives. Some may feel the need to vent online and find sympathetic readers, but this may go too far and become a whinefest, as some have pointed out. If it is prolonged, it engenders a psychological and emotional paralysis, inhibiting a man from becoming an agent of change and improving his own life, even if it is limited to disassociating himself from the poisons in his life and seeking comfort in the few positive things that he can do for himself.

Only when a man has acquired self-mastery can he legitimately exercise authority over others. But there is also the matter of learning how to properly relate to women as a man, and not as a girlfriend.

Public Discourse has a short review by Matthew Schmitz of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying by sociologists Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker: Premarital Sex in America.  Apparently the two sociologists recommend this solution: "If we are to “take back the night,” we may have to first recapture a compelling vision of masculinity that makes education and achievement attractive to a lost generation of young men." But what has made education and (academic) achievement lose their attractiveness in the first place? And is this a solution to men's problems, if the political economy, which dictates that it is necessary for those seeking upward social mobility to obtain degree from a college or university, is on its way out?  Those who point out that men are dropping out of college and learning some useful skill or trade instead are probably more correct in their facts. Many, including myself, sympathize with male frustration with mainstream academia and the American education system.