Someone claimed somewhere that women generally do not grow up until they have a child. (And I took that to mean break out of being selfishness or self-absorption, but maybe they were just talking about becoming mature and responsible.) Is this really the case? Or is it just a lack of virtue on their part? After all, one could make the argument that for many women, the love they feel for their child is more of a primal emotion, than a higher spiritual love, and so just as they were driven by a 'biological' desire for a man to have in order to procreate, afterwards they are driven by 'biological instinct' in their care of their children.

Emotion and instinct, and the raising of both through reason in love. Isn't that why the acquisition of virtue necessary?

How does the means-end reasoning differ between the virtuous woman seeking a husband and her not-so-virtuous counterpart?

If we're just talking about responsibility, then surely we can agree that too many young people, both men and women, no exercise no real responsibility for themselves or others until well after they are finished with school and are working. (I don't consider the directing of others at a workplace to be even close to the full exercise of moral responsibility for others.)